[LANG-1825] EqualsBuilder.reflectionAppend ttries to set visibility on excluded fields

[garydgregory]

[LANG-1825] EqualsBuilder.reflectionAppend tries to set visibility on excluded fields.

Don't force fields to be accessible when excluded.

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